Is It Really Your Path

Can you say your on the path? Take a look into your past and wright down some of the reasons you think the way you do. Living your life as your parents did is perfectly normal. As we look back we find good and bad depending on many factors.

Our health, be it physical or mental is determined by our genetics at the time of conception. After birth our circumstances take over and form the path that we live as adults.

Keep a positive outlook is how I live my life now, I try very hard to come from a loving mind set. There are so many people that live in fear, I know because I was one of them. Afraid to enjoy my blessings, not feeling I deserved to be happy.

I was always afraid that I would not be good enough. Not good enough to have anything you name it love, joy, freedom from worry and I live in fear. I realized that my fear came from growing up being told you can’t because you’re not ready or smart. The positive side was never expressed. I had taken others opinions as facts. Things that I wanted I would never have and that I should settle for the best that came along.

When I left home I became responsible for all my choices. I did not want to go back to ask someone else what they thought. I wanted to live my way. What I did not realize in my head where those voices preventing me from making a lot of my choices. So I started to study every choice I made.

I was not ready to settle for what others thought was the best for me. I chose to live my life on a more positive path. What I realized was most of my decisions were made out of fear. I did not want to focus on the fear I had learned and I want to focus on the positive, feelings like love, kindness and empathy.

It took a while, I had to sift through a lot of stuff but I found my way. Everything I felt when I was in the presents of love, I learned to tap into again. I remembered the joy that I had around people who lived their lives in a loving way.

When I was a child we sung this song God is in every flower and every tree. He’s in the sunrise and the sunset. He’s in the plants that spring up from the ground, God is everywhere I have found. God is in you and me. God is everywhere, God is love.

I was out in the garden one day and I remembered word to the song not sure if there right now, but on that day I did remember every word. So I sat there meditating for a while on those words and one thing that kept coming to mind is we are all part of one magnificent force. And that force I call God.

When I get up in the morning for the first things I like to do is take a really deep breath because God is in the air I breathe. I knew looking back there was a lot of stuff and I needed help if my path was going to change. I had done therapy and I learned ways I could think differently. Yet I still kept falling back to the old way of thinking.

Then one day I was watching Oprah Winfrey Show. I love her. On this particular show her guest was Louise Hay. I have been studying her work ever since. From her I learning to love myself, and it took practice to identify negative thoughts and thought patterns. I was worth the choices I wanted to make.

Letting go of the fear I had was brought on by the environment I grew up in. Since I know that my mind is always learning. I could learn to let go of the past thoughts by choosing what I wanted to think about. This was the first step I took to change my life and put it on the path I know is meant for me.



Deciding to Open Your Mind

I believe I have an open mind. I try very hard to see pass the perimeter of my upbringing. I trust in myself to make my decisions from a loving point of view. I love myself, so I can see past the fear of making any decision.

How I see the world now is much different than how I did when I was a child. As a child I was abused mentally, sexually and physically. I believed in the lies that were told to me. I did feel that I was no good and a bad seed. That I deserved everything I had coming to me.

Boy was I wrong, it was only after a mental break down and the love of my mother and a very loving therapist that I started to realize that I was not what I was told. The people around you will tell you anything that will keep you under their control.

In my last article I wrote abought how we can change what we think. It is a decision, it is our decision to believe others options and beliefs. To open your mind is to see things from all points of view by taking in as much relevant information so that you can make up your own mind.

As you open your mind to the possibilities of the things around you, the world may look quite different than what you were taught. It does not necessarily mean that everything you would taught was a lie. People learn from past experiences and the conditions they have growing up. We would all like to believe that our way is the right way of thinking.

I don’t believe that you need to think the same way I do. I want you to make up your own mind on what you believe. Everyone has their own truth and I still believe that it comes from how open we are to the possibilities of coming from a loving or fearful environment. When we open our minds we are letting all points of view to form our decisions.

As an adult the decision process is yours. It’s your mind, make it up for yourself. We choose to believe others without getting any facts. Life experiences are what we believed to be true. When we see each experience from all points of view then and only then should we choose what we believe.

As a child of abuse I believed the lies that were told to me and therefore I had no self-esteem which reinforced the lies being told. When you hear something over and over and over again it becomes the voice in your head. You buy into these lies beating yourself up over and over again.

You don’t have to believe that anymore. Think about why you believe what you do and try not to except it as your truth. By opening your mind you can see that the opinions of others don’t necessarily need to keep you from loving yourself and sharing that love with everyone.

As an adult I had to learn to open my mind and I did so by making a decision that I was not my past and that I was worth so much more than that. I first had to decide not to believe the lies I was told and to work on building my self-esteem. And the first thing I had to do was start loving myself.

I was truly grateful to have some loving influences as teen and young adults. Their support was loving and unconditional. It gave me the ability to change the way I was thinking. To do this I sought out as much knowledge as I could on changing the way I thought. It was not until after my first child was born, that I realized that I was not letting go of the past.

When I heard some of the words that were coming from my own mouth towards my husband and child that I knew I had to do something to change the way I looked at every situation. I started to look at things from their point of view and how it changed the dynamics of the way I was thinking. I no longer wanted to live coming from a place of fear and insecurity.

More important I did not want my children to grow up with a parent who only seen their side and believed what they were doing, what they were taught was the right way. There had to be something that I was missing growing up. I made a decision to become the parent that my children would be proud of. So as I open my mind I could let go of the past and the fear. And I still to this day am still working on my self-esteem and letting go of my insecurities.

Having gifts that differ according to the grace given us, let us use them.                                   ROMANS 12:6


Who Is In Charge of Your Thinking?

Thinking about experiencing life with no boundaries? I do and try very hard.  Most of us think the way our parents think by the belief and values they taught growing up.

One thing that people don’t realize as an adult you’re in charge of your own thinking you don’t have to think the way others think. You don’t have to conform to others vision of who you should be and you are in charge of your own happiness health and well-being.

We choose to believe what we learned growing up, we choose our behavior on what others think and depending on whether you were raised in fear or love your outcome will be different. Now that we are older we can make up our own minds on what we will believe and how we want to live our life.

I choose to believe and live my life from a loving point of view. Growing up I had both my home and it caused a lot a conflict which left me insecure and doubting my worthiness to be loved. Be loved and feeling love comes from a feeling of self-worth.

It’s very hard for children to understand that everything that they’re being taught may not be the way things are in the real world. If we choose a life of fear we’re closing ourselves off to the possibilities of a fulfilled prosperous and loving life.

One of the first things that we have to realize is that we are worth the time and effort it takes to make up our own minds. What we want to believe as adults can be based on expanding our minds and allowing ourselves to let love in. We start by loving ourselves enough to take care of ourselves.

So many of us don’t allow ourselves to except that the way we grew up may have a lot to do with how we live our lives. How we raise our children how we appear to others and how we see ourselves.

Some of us just want to be comfortable they have no desire to become a rock star and that’s okay. If you’re fine with that and you’re happy congrats you love yourself, I’m happy for you. Contentment is not giving up on living life, if it is what’s right for you and love yourself enough to enjoy it, that is what matters.

I grew up with a very uncomfortable life once filled with fear, doubt, self-loathing all brought on by my perception of the world around me and what it was teaching. I first had to discover who I was. I found myself looking for answers everywhere but within.

One day I looked to the sky and I asked why I just want to know why! I wanted to understand why I thought that’s it smaller nobody things were the way they were. I had no answers so I wanted to learn more. From that day forward I found myself on the journey that would never end.

I'm letting fear go. So I can welcome love in.

I’m letting fear go. So I can welcome love in.


Thanks be to God, who gives me the victory through

my Lord Jesus Christ.