Communication Is Love For Children Of All Ages.

What ever happened to communication? Blah! Blah! Blah your lips are moving but I don’t hear what you’re saying, that is the world today. I go through the day and I wonder how many people are listening to me. Do you hear my voice when I say hello are you aware that I am talking to you. I look you straight in the eyes and you look away as to say you don’t matter to me. Do you greet yourself and others with love when you wake up in the morning?

There is nothing that hurts more than rejection. When you look in the mirror do you reject the person looking back at you? If so, why? Are you stuck in pain of who you are? Are your standards to high? Have you a chip on your shoulder?Are they someone elses standards that you feel you have to live up to?. Each one of us has special gifts that are over looked by the people around us. They don’t see their value, maybe you have not revealed all your special talents to the word. We are different to each person we meet because they all see us differently.

Our friends and family know us they are the keepers of our history and they remind us when we start to get bigger then where we came from. Before you take for granted that you don’t measure up ask the people who matter how they really feel about you. If all they have is negative comments, you need to find people who appreciate what you have to offer. Base your acceptance on, what you know and surrounding yourself with the people who love you and express it in there actions. Just because they are family doesn’t mean they know everything about you or who you are and who said that you have to like them. What is that saying you can’t pick your family…

The way some of us go through life is puzzling to me. Why is it that some people look at themselves in a negative way? It depends on who you ask. I think children blame themselves for something traumatic that happen to them or someone they love. Stuck in a deep emotional hole and not sure how to get out. Some children and adults never move forward from that point. They just needed one person to tell them that it is what it is and as a child you are not in control.

Believe me when I say you maybe the only one who is caring that burden, everyone else has moved on. Adults minds balancing so many things, that they don’t always put value on what children think or how it affects them later in life. Depending on how tragic the situation is to that child they may never see themself worthy of the love all around them.Locked in a mindset that takes value away from the gifts you have robs you of living a great life.

Sometimes people will say things that only would hurt you, because it is in the way you interpret what is being done or said from that emotional hole. A friend of mine once told me the only one that can hurt your feelings is you. If you attach rejection to comments that others make before they even finish what they are saying you might be missing a complement. People show you they care with constructive input not a put down. We find value in what we do or we would not be doing it. People find value in us when they care about us and express it with actions and words.

If you have no value in yourself you hold no one valuable, you don’t care what they think or why you should care.Go back to that place and time that you got suck and tell yourself it’s okay that you felt that way and know that you are an adult it is time to move on. I am able to put the past behind me because I know my abusers were broken children and had made choices based on being broken as adults. Not everyone will except the way I think and that’s okay it works for me and I am no longer a broken person. I know there was no way I could have changed what happen to me. I am grateful to the people who took the time to tell me, I was not a child in control and it was not okay that I was abused. Love without judgement is what I have for myself now.

I believe a child heals with love and is able to look ahead and to the millions of opportunities, feeling love and acceptance.Communication is love for children of all ages, when someone takes time to greet, talk and spend time with you is when you are living in the moment not the past.

In quietness and in trusting confidence I find strength. ISAIAH 30:15

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Blah! Blah! Blah your lips are moving but I don’t hear what you’re saying, that is the world today. What ever happen to communication. I go through the day and I wonder how many people are listening to me. Do you hear my voice when I say hello are you aware that I am talking to you. I look you straight in the eyes and you look away as to say you don’t matter to me. Do you greet yourself and others with love when you wake up in the morning?

There is nothing that hurts more than rejection. When you look in the mirror do you reject the person looking back at you? If so, why? Are you stuck in pain of who you are? Are your standards to high? Have you a chip on your shoulder?Are they someone elses standards that you feel you have to live up to?. Each one of us has special gifts that are over looked by the people around us. They don’t see their value, maybe you have not revealed all your special talents to the word. We are different to each person we meet because they all see us differently.

Our friends and family know us they are the keepers of our history and they remind us when we start to get bigger then where we came from. Before you take for granted that you don’t measure up ask the people who matter how they really feel about you. If all they have is negative comments, you need to find people who appreciate what you have to offer. Base your acceptance on, what you know and surrounding yourself with the people who love you and express it in there actions. Just because they are family doesn’t mean they know everything about you or who you are and who said that you have to like them. What is that saying you can’t pick your family…

The way some of us go through life is puzzling to me. Why is it that some people look at themselves in a negative way? It depends on who you ask. I think children blame themselves for something traumatic that happen to them or someone they love. Stuck in a deep emotional hole and not sure how to get out. Some children and adults never move forward from that point. They just needed one person to tell them that it is what it is and as a child you are not in control.

Believe me when I say you maybe the only one who is caring that burden, everyone else has moved on. Adults minds balancing so many things, that they don’t always put value on what children think or how it affects them later in life. Depending on how tragic the situation is to that child they may never see themselves worthy of the love all around them. Locked in a mindset that takes value away from the gifts you have robs you of living a great life. You must learn to communicate to yourself.

Sometimes people will say things that only would hurt you, because it is in the way you interpret what is being done or said from that emotional hole. A friend of mine once told me the only one that can hurt your feelings is you. If you attach rejection to comments that others make before they even finish what they are saying you might be missing a complement. Teach yourself to listen it the key to communication. People show you they care with constructive input not a put down. We find value in what we do or we would not be doing it. People find value in us when they care about us and express it with actions and words.

If you have no value in yourself you hold no one valuable, you don’t care what they think or why you should care.Go back to that place and time that you got suck and tell yourself it’s okay that you felt that way and know that you are an adult it is time to move on.

I am able to put the past behind me because I know my abusers were broken children and had made choices based on being broken as adults. Not everyone will except the way I think and that’s okay it works for me and I am no longer a broken person. I know there was no way I could have changed what happen to me. I am grateful to the people who took the time to tell me, I was not a child in control and it was not okay that I was abused. Love without judgement is what I have for myself now.

I believe a child heals with love and is able to look ahead and to the millions of opportunities, feeling love and acceptance.Communication is love for children of all ages, when someone takes time to greet, talk and spend time with you is when you are living in the moment not the past.

In quietness and in trusting confidence I find strength. ISAIAH 30:15

Lost My Friend Today

I don’t know if you have lost a friend or if can understand how I feel. This is my third friend that I lost to cancer. Their lives were cut short and I wounder why them? The truth is that cancer doesn’t care if you are someones friend, wife, mother, daughter, sister or brother. Cancer doesn’t care how you feel about it, as a matter of fact it only has one purpose and that is to multiple and take over. It is a robber that steals your family and friends with out a sound going unnoticed until it has a strong hold. This leaves you or someone you love fighting for their life.

I lost my friend today she is a mother, a grandmother, a lover and giving person. She fought until she new that the cancer had already won, it rooted itself in her brain. She loved her life and did not want to miss any of it and to fight anymore she would have not had missed out on the gift of life. I say this because the passed four months were filled with peace and blessings that she would have missed out on beings sick from treatments with no guarantees. She took her chances with the brain cancer you see all she had left was time. Time to see and tell everyone I love you, and that is what she did up until three days ago when she started to slip away.

I know in my heart that she made the right choice. Her daughter by her side, her sons and loved ones close by she was able to see her grandson before she passed and she new that her children would be alright. Her friends that love her like a sister will watch over her children as if they were their own. I lost my friend today and I am okay, I have been blessed to have had her in my life. Cancer took her body away and her love will live forever in my heart.

Cancer is a thief that comes into our lives ready or not it will take you or someone you love away. Don’t let it steal the love in memories turning you bitter inside. We are a witness to a beautiful person and a beautiful life. Lee Ann you will live in our hearts forever and the joy you brought us is in our memories and you will live on through them.

God has given me one new commandment that I should love others just as He has loved me.          JOHN  13:34

Children With ADHD Don’t Have a Problem

How many people in your life have ADHD? You are directly affected by the frustration, anger and low self-esteem that develops when ADHD is part of your life? We try to balance and support the ones we love by making the best of everyday. People using tools to manage their ADHD are able to live a full productive life.

Nothing beats a great night’s sleep, exercise and a nutritious diet. There are benefits in setting up a healthy routine. You are what you eat and certain foods can affect it. Keep a food log and drop foods high in preservatives, dyes and additives. Working with your family doctor the more information you have the better. You and your doctor can decide whether a treatment including medication and therapy is the part of what is best for your child. Therapy is a great way to keep depression from adding to the struggles of a person with ADHD. Anti depressant are not used to manage ADHD, but is helpful to treat the depression that some patients experience.

There are adults that have managed ADHD without knowing what it is. They adapt their lives by using whatever it takes to get by. Some live productive lives not knowing why they seem to struggle so much. There are some people who fall into alcohol and drug abuse to deal with the fact that they are different not knowing about ADHD or why they struggle to get things done. Then there are people who withdrawing into a world that they feel they can control, unfortunately ADHD is in control. Learning everything you can about ADHD is the only way you can decide what is best for you or your child.

There are tools that work. Setting up a plan of action to deal with the emotions is part of ADHD. Adults and children with ADHD don’t have a problem; it is the family, the teachers and the trainers that have to come up with the learning tools to help them adapt. Sitting in one place for a long time, staying on task and listening to instructions are just some of the challenges of ADHD and to realize the consequences of their actions is one of the biggest challenges. Children are like sponges, they learn and adapt to change quickly if they are in a happy friendly atmosphere with learning tools in place. ADHD teens that are not diagnosed as younger children have self-esteem issues and trouble communicating with others. They only live in the moment; they do not care about the past or the future. driven by what they want and they do not care about what is next. Consequences are far from their thought process. Teens have a hard enough time with the hormonal changes that they go through. Getting an early diagnosis is the key to their learning success.

Tools to manage ADHD

  • Get a diagnosis from an expert.
  • Work with your child’s diagnoses and remember every child is different.
  • Establish control and stay consistent.
  • Give praise and positive reinforcement.
  • Develop organizational skills.
  • Break down projects one step at a time.
  • Take breaks with physical activities to help with energy levels.
  • Make eye contact with easy short instructions and have them repeat the instruction back.
  • Positive rewards keep them engaged until they finished.
  • Encourage them to problem solve with you and point out the rewards and the consequences.

Every person is different as parents our job is to do what we can to put the tools in place so that our children develop into great adults. If you think you or someone you love has ADHD there is a test that your Doctor can do. Finding out is the first step. I have two children with ADHD I can tell you that they are both different in every way and their ADHD is also different. I work hard with doctors, teachers, therapist and each of my children to find the tools to fit each of their needs. It was not an easy task but well worth it.

I think about sticking with things because the thoughts of the diligent tend only to plenty, but everyone who is impatient and hasty hastens only to want. PROVERBS 21:5