Truth is a matter of opinion. The past defines so many of us. Our truth is not based on others opinion because they are not us. It is our truth that matters.
We are a product of our environment we bring a lot of baggage from our past if we let it. I think that if we try hard to remember who we were before the events that form our opinions of ourselves. Try to think back when you were very young, life was so carefree. Truth is we had no baggage no responsibility, our lives were filled with dreams and excitement about experiencing new things.
Some people come from stable homes with opportunities to develop a great self esteem. Others of us go through hell and don’t realize anything else. Abuse, disappear and low self-esteem seems a cursed because we’re unable to find a better way. These thoughts are depressing to say the least. Suffer from anxiety and depression we don’t always know that if we change our truth we can work towards a better more positive life.
The challenge then becomes how do we move in that direction? What are people in my life going to do as I change? What if I do all this work and nothing changes? All these questions are questions that a damaged person thinks about before being able to see the truth. No person, place or thing should keep you from becoming who you really are.
Every person on this plant wants to be loved and accepted. If we live by others opinion of who we are we engage in keeping ourselves stuck. Stuck from moving forward into a positive life style. People who live in these cycles of abuse and self-loathing can’t see how you can change it. They are a part of the cycle that identifies not only who you are, but also who they are too.
Change is hard and most of us don’t do it on our own, we need help. There are places to get help if you want it bad enough. State programs are set up with people who can support you and the life changes you want to make. Our circle of love ones stand in support of what we’re doing unless they have to participate. Truth is when we change they have to change also because we don’t identify with their idea of our truth. They form opinions from the past and are not willing to let them go.
I can go back to where I grew up, in just a few minutes of talking to friends and family I can see who know me know and are willing to give me the benefit of doubt. Not that it matters because truth is I don’t care what others think. What I think is more important because of the changes I had to make to find myself again.
Defining my life is simple I am a positive loving person that has a positive outlook and is ready to handle anything that life throws at me now.